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Wednesday, May 26, 2010

子女只是家庭的過客

這篇文章很值得已婚的人省思, 不過還沒有結婚的也可以先行參考唷.

子女只是家庭的過客,夫妻才是家庭的歸人。
非常中肯的文
章很有道理。不要讓甜蜜的負擔變成沉重的負擔。

現代的小家庭,家庭重心未必是夫妻,許多小家庭的家庭重
心是 子女。
中國人一向有犧牲這一代,成就下一代的偉大精神,但結果往 往 是這一代確實是被犧牲了,但並沒有成就下一代,反而傷害夫妻原本應該培養出 來的默契與親密角色。

子女需要被照顧,需要被教育,需要良好的成長環境,但決不能取代夫妻成為家庭的重心。

許多夫妻都不會承認子女是家庭的重心,但仔細想想有多少夫妻不是有了孩子之後,就從來沒有兩個人一起去看過一埸電 影,反而一起陪孩子看 孩子決定的片子機會倒不少。夫妻從孩子落地就不再是家庭的重心了。

子女只是家庭的過客, 夫妻才是家庭的歸人。
既然子女只是家庭的過客,就沒有理由要成為家庭的重心,否則 曲終人散,客人走了,做主人的情何以堪。
子女在父母身邊的日子,平均不到夫妻相處時間的一半,實在沒 有取代夫妻成為家庭重心的理由。現代的子女,絕大部份都處於被過份關心,被過度照顧、擁有過度豐富的物 質,但成為一個獨立健全的人所需要具備的負責、合作能力,卻嚴重不足。長期處於家庭重心,被關心照顧備至的地位,造 成子女 知識有餘常識不足,聰明有餘常識不足,IQ有餘EQ不足,機巧有餘厚道不 足。

將子女置於家庭重心,其實是愛之適足於害之,而且夫妻本身也同受其害。
一 個以夫妻為重心的家庭,不會只在意子女的學習,而忽略了夫 妻也應繼續學習;不會只在意子女的情緒,而忽略了夫妻雙 方的情緒;不會永無止 盡的讓子女介入夫妻的生活;不會只愛子女不愛太太 或先生。

以子女為重的家庭,夫妻間很 難存在高品質的愛情。
夫妻間要好好相愛,請先將子女這個愛情的第三者,請到第二 線。

《婚 前婚後》愛情隨時間定義
當我們感覺愛情褪色或是消失的時候,先不要沮喪,先讓我們想 想我們褪色或消失的愛情,到底是怎麼樣的愛情。
我們心中浮現的愛情,必然是熱戀時的卿卿我我、濃情蜜意
「少 年夫妻老來伴」愛情會隨著婚姻的開始、子女的出現、年齡的增長而改變。
婚前婚後對於愛情的定義,應該要有所調整。
婚 前愛情產生的因素,都有其時間的侷限與不確定性,所以根本 無法配合確定而長時間的婚姻關係。
婚後愛情的產 生要靠另一套因素:照顧自己並對家庭付出的能力與意願、合諧相處的能力。自我長成與促進配合對方成長的能力、扮演親 職的能 力,如果這些因素都俱備了,婚後的愛情沒有理由不產生。
婚姻生活是硬碰硬的,錢要有人賺、家要有人 理、子女要有人 教。
能照顧自己、關心家人、照顧 孩子又不忘自我充實的伴侶,就是 最適合婚姻生活的伴侶,這樣的伴侶已經值得十二萬分去愛了。

人不一定隨年齡而成長,但一定隨年齡而改變,自己變了,伴侶 變了,對愛情的定義也該變變了。千萬記得:
這 年頭『孝子』瀕臨絕種,別指望孩子反哺知恩,下一代再也沒 有上一代孝親觀念啦!


Tricia Yong Pui Yan:
"agreed! if there's no marriage, there's no family and if there's no family, there's no kid....we have to take care of the root (marriage) of the family where the kids grow.
first happy parents, then happy kids. we have the responsibility to raise our kids to be an optimistic, independent and functional individual but we don't own them. we have our time with them and then we let go. let them soar!
easier said than done. so, got to start practising now....really, our partner is the one who will be with us through the ends of life. don't leave your partner at the backburner...
my husband is probably laughing sarcastically right now, "please, practice what you preach. now you got only kids in your eyes!". :)"


Celinn Su:
"Right ! We all are passers-by !! Make good use of our time when we are still here !!! : )"


Sabrina Woong Chow Wah:
"谢谢你的分享 :) 我会再一次share出去。。。老实说,觉得自己也像文章里的父母,将孩子视为‘中心’;一是环境所逼(爷爷奶奶外公外婆都不在身边),二是觉得既然生了 孩子,父母就得尽最大的能力来养育,包括时间精神爱护。。。真的是”进退两难” :)互相勉励吧!"

Saw Lean Yooi:
"Actually, we are just the passers-by in this world."








Sunday, May 23, 2010

Nice story: Burnt biscuit

Mom liked to make breakfast food for dinner every now and then.

And I remember one night in particular when she had made breakfast after a long, hard day at work. That evening, mom placed a plate of eggs, sausage and extremely burned biscuits in front of dad. I remember waiting to see if anyone noticed.
All dad did was reach for his biscuit, smiled at mom and asked me how my day was at school. I don't remember what I told him that night, but I do remember watching him smear butter and jelly on that biscuit and ate every bite.

When I got up from the table, I remember hearing mom apologize to dad for burning the biscuits. And I'll never forget what he said:
Honey, I love burned biscuits.

Later that night, I went to kiss Daddy good night and asked him if he really liked his biscuits burned. He wrapped me in his arms and said,
"Your Momma put in a hard day at work today and she's real tired. And besides - a little burnt biscuit never hurt anyone!"

You know,
life is full of imperfect things.....and imperfect people. I'm not the best at hardly anything, and I forget birthdays and anniversaries just like everyone else.

What I've learned over the years is that
learning to accept each others' faults - and choosing to celebrate each others differences - is one of the most important keys to creating a healthy, growing, and lasting relationship.

Because in the end,
you are the master of your own life, to be happy or unhappy, to be positive or negative.

We could extend this to any relationship. In fact, understanding is the base of any relationship , be it a husband-wife or parent-child or friendship.

Don't put the key to your happiness in someone else's pocket - keep it in your own.


So please pass me a biscuit, and yes, the burnt one will do just fine ...











她现在能给你的,都是我十年前给过你的!

谢谢你,勾引我老公!-------
这文章看得我心里酸
酸 的,送给每一个爱老公的女人


俗话说的好: 再好的鱼肉吃多了,也还是想尝尝大白菜的味道;再好的老
婆 处久了,也还是想知道别的女人的风韵。所以,如果你下了 决心勾引我老公,而我老公也上钩了,我一点也不觉得奇怪。

感人故事
  我想感谢你,在许多个寂寞无聊的日子里陪伴着我老公。 人真的很奇怪,会莫名其妙地在人群中感到孤独,会无缘无 故地在黄昏的时候伤感,哪怕他衣食无忧,且有娇妻爱子相 伴左右。孤独与拥有无关,每个人的心中总有一块处女地, 任凭外面刮风下雨,都永远无法触摸得到。或许就差那么一 点点,或许爱和感受就像病毒一样不断升级,就差那么一点点, 你就永远找不到满足的感觉。

感人故事
  我知道,如果我温柔,他就会感受不到辣;如果我安静, 他就会感受不到酸;如果我风骚,他就感受不到甜;如果我 善良,他就感受不到苦。而我不想让他的感受有缺憾,不想让他 在没有我的日子里忍受煎熬。

感人故事
  人生不能想,一想就流泪。我们有我们每个人的事业,只 是为了更好的生存,我们不能天天在一起,我们不能时刻都 让对方满意。在异地他乡,能有人陪他,也是我前世修来的 福。我只是想让他的生活不痛苦不空白。距离产生的美反而 让我们无法分开,他说他愿意在任何一个场合跟任何一个人 说,老婆为我做了很多,我永远不会抛弃她。人说爱是自私 的,可是爱也是高尚的,爱的最高境界不是占有,如果我爱他, 我选择尽一切可能让他感觉幸福。


  男人经不起诱惑,尤其是美丽女人的诱惑,我老公也是
个 凡人,经不起。仅美丽女人勾引我老公的过程就会让他的生活充 满了色彩。不再那么苦闷。
  也许他会感觉到对我的伤害,其实只要不以为这是伤害, 它就不是伤害。他善意的隐瞒,隐瞒绝对不是欺骗,那就是 他不想伤害我。我穷其一生追求的只是他对我的心意,不是 任何一种内容和形式。如果你勾引了他,而他发现你就是他 一生要找的另一半,我为什么非要横在中间?如果你不是, 他终究会回到我的身边。我了解并能容忍他的任何一个致命 的弱点,我们一起经历了风风雨雨的见证,有谁能像我一样始终 站在他生命最低谷的边缘?

  曾经看过一篇文章,写的特别实在,文章名字叫《她现
在能 给你的,都是我十年前给过你的!》。

我正专心的看电视,他突然说:“我们离婚吧”。他很严肃, 不象是跟我开玩笑。浮上我脑海的第一个念头是:他肯定抄 股亏大了,或者是得了绝症,怕连累我。我坚决的摇头,油然而 生一股要跟他共患难的豪情。
  他的第二句话将我打入地狱:“我爱上别人了,对不起。”
  “什么时候?”我努力沉住气。
  “半年了,是旅行认识的,她是导游,很单纯,人又热情。” 也许意识到自己赞美的词语用的过多,他刹住了,愧疚的看着 我。
  “有多爱?”“十分爱。”
  我没有再问下去,问的太细只会让自己伤的更深,不如给自 己留点颜面。
  回忆跟他在一起的日子,我们很幸福。可是,既然人家已 经喜新厌旧,我干吗死不放手呢?我长长吐了一口气:“一 切就按你的意思办吧。有人能将你这个祸害从我身边领走, 我真是感激不尽。”他惊讶的看着我,他知道我并不是一个心胸 豁达的女人。
  “其实我对你也有审美疲劳。”你把我看的轻如鸿毛,就别 指望自己还是我心中的泰山。
  他深感愧疚,决定把家里的一切留给我和孩子。离婚前, 他约我一起吃饭,几杯酒下肚,他的话多了起来,他说,他 希望得到我的祝福,他还主动说起那个女孩,她朝气蓬勃, 跟她在一起,他有被点燃的感觉。想起自己曾经也年轻漂亮, 朝气蓬勃,也曾经那样吸引他,我与那个,只是隔了十年的光 阴,却被明显贴上了旧爱与新欢的标签。
  “她很天真,一点小事也能让她感到满足,跟她去购物, 抽奖得了一块香皂;带她去吃北京饺子;送她一块20元的 电子表,给她买一个土渣儿饼......她都会欣喜若狂。 跟她在一起,我很放松,我可以抽烟抽的屋子里一股烟味, 我可以玩通宵麻将,跟朋友拼酒......”他陶醉在自己的 幸福里,满眼的温柔。
  而我,像所有的黄脸婆一样,精打细算,过问他每一笔开 销,买双袜子都要货比三家。我不许他抽烟,禁止他喝酒,更反 对他吆三喝四的赌博。
  “和她在一起,我感觉心跳加速,干什么都充满力量。”他 显然已有几分醉意。
  我打断他:“从此以后,我不再是你的黄脸婆,不再是你 不用支付工资的用人。
我可以节省为你熨衣服配领带的时
间, 来打扮自己;
我可以节省下为你买衣物的钱,给自己挑
几 件拿的出手的时装;
我可以不用绞尽脑汁地搜索鱼的N种
做 法,不用讨好你的胃,想吃饭我就做,不想做饭,我可以带 女儿去吃快餐;
我可以不再担心你抽烟伤了肺,喝酒伤了
肝;
我不再为你洗吐的一塌糊涂的被单;
不用在你醉了酒,
睡 在街边某个角落时,一边哭一边满大街的找;
我可以不用
再 操心你老家的亲戚今天谁做寿,明天谁娶媳妇,不用再每个 月给你爸妈寄生活费;
不用每年跟你坐半天的车,提着大
包 小包走十多里山路,只为陪你父母吃顿年夜饭.....
是 啊,离婚,真是太好了!”

说完这些,我泪如泉涌,而他
则 楞楞的看着我,我一直都表现的很冷静,可是,一点酒精就 把我的内心出卖了。三十多岁的女人,谁不在乎自己经营多年的婚姻?
我又笑起来:“离吧,离了看你得意多久,你十分爱她是吧
? 她也十分爱你是吧?走到一起后,一起生活几年,看你还会 不会见到她就心跳加速,她现在能给你的都是十年前我给过 你的,你就折腾去吧!等你折腾够了就会发现,你只是把我们走 过的路又重复走了一遍而已。”

“你醉了?”他有些紧张的看着我。

  “我没有天真单纯过吗?我没有年轻美丽过吗?我把你送的一只铜戒指、一本书、一枚书签视若珍宝,冒着严寒为你 织手套。我也十分爱过,可是走进婚姻,女人的角色就复杂 了,在爱的同时,有了很多责任。他不可能再十分专注的爱 一个人,她要从这十分爱中分出一分爱公公婆婆,又要从中 分出一分来爱自己的父母,还要从中分一分来爱孩子。分 的爱经过婚姻的洗礼,就只剩下了七分。当另一份十分的爱袭击 她的幸福时,她就无以抵挡......”

  最终,我们没有离婚,他改变了主意。
他说我清醒的时
候没 有醉酒的时候理智,也没有醉酒的时候聪明...
  谢谢某人,勾引我老公。
  谢谢某人,洒脱,解脱。









Tuesday, May 18, 2010

A Stranger @ Home

A while ago, my Dad met a stranger who was new to our small town.
From the beginning, Dad was fascinated with this enchanting newcomer and soon invited him to live with our family. The stranger was quickly accepted and was around from then on.

As I grew up, I never questioned his place in my family. In my young mind, he had a special niche. My parents were complementary instructors: Mom taught me good from evil, and Dad taught me to obey. But the stranger...he was our storyteller. He would keep us spellbound for hours on end with adventures, mysteries and comedies.

If I wanted to know anything about politics, history or science, he always knew the answers about the past, understood the present and even seemed able to predict the future! He took my family to the first major league ball game. He made me laugh, and he made me cry. The stranger never stopped talking, but Dad didn't seem to mind.

Sometimes, Mom would get up quietly while the rest of us were shushing each other to listen to what he had to say, and she would go to the kitchen for peace and quiet. (I wonder now if she ever prayed for the stranger to leave.)

Dad ruled our household with certain moral convictions, but the stranger never felt obligated to honor them. Profanity, for example, was not allowed in our home...

Not from us, our friends or any visitors.

Our longtime visitor, however, got away with four-letter words that burned my ears and made my dad squirm and my mother blush.
My Dad didn't permit the liberal use of alcohol. But the stranger encouraged us to try it on a regular basis. He made cigarettes look cool, cigars manly and pipes distinguished.
He talked freely (much too freely!) about sex. His comments were sometimes blatant, sometimes suggestive, and generally embarrassing.

I now know that my early concepts about relationships were influenced strongly by the stranger. Time after time, he opposed the values of my parents, yet he was seldom rebuked... And NEVER asked to leave.

More than fifty years have passed since the stranger moved in with our family. He has blended right in and is not nearly as fascinating as he was at first.
Still, if you could walk into my parents' den today, you would still find him sitting over in his corner, waiting for someone to listen to him talk and watch him draw his pictures.

His name?.......
We just call him 'TV.'

(Note: This should be required reading for every household!)
He has a wife now....
We call her 'Computer.'
Their first child is "Cell Phone".
Second child "I Pod"

Monday, May 17, 2010

堅信我的孩子會超越我

在上海讀到大陸最大網站之一,阿里巴巴集團董事長馬雲發表在5月(下)人物畫報的一段話,讀來驚心動魄。轉給大家讀讀。

馬雲說:

一個多月前我去台灣,在一個餐桌上,有一批年紀很大的企業 家,頭髮都很白,每個人都大談創新。後來我說台灣沒希望 了。假如七八十歲的人還在創新,問題就大了。他們不相信年輕 人比他們會創新。

其實他們應該是盡全力去努力幫助年輕人去去創新,建個平臺 扶持他們創新。幫助他們創新。一旦我們認為比年輕人更聰明, 那災難就出現了。

我父親認為我不如他,爭論了將近20年,每次吃飯就吵架, 直到幾年前我說,我把兒子十六七歲養到了一米八,你把我養成 這樣。我對父親說,看你本事大,還是我本事大。

事情發生了很大的變化,我的父親超越了我爺爺,我超越了我 父親,我也堅信我的孩子會超越我。
假如我們對自己的孩
子沒有信心,我不知道我們對未來還會有信心嗎?....





一笑解千愁

被人誤解的時候能微微的一笑,這是一種素養;
受委屈的時候能坦然的一笑,這是一種大 度;
吃虧的時候能開心的一笑,這是一種豁達;
處窘境的時候能自嘲的一笑,這是一種智慧;
無奈的時候能達觀的一笑,這是一種境界;
危 難的時候能泰然一笑,這是一種大氣;
被輕蔑的時候能平靜的一笑,這是一種自信;
失戀的時候能輕輕的一笑,這是一種灑脫。
希望大家不管面對什麼事情或是為了什麼原因而煩惱.....希望大家都能一笑置之......
.....哈哈哈! 一笑解千愁!

avoid electro-magnetic radiation / Supplied

Dr Charlie Teo, from Channel 7's Last Chance Surgery, says it's better to avoid electro-magnetic radiation / Supplied
BRAIN cancer surgeon Charlie Teo has urged people to put mobile phones on loudspeaker, move clock radios to the foot of the bed and wait until microwaves have finished beeping before opening them..

The controversial Sydney specialist told a Melbourne fundraiser that although the jury was still out on mobile phones and other forms of electromagnetic radiation, we should not take risks.

"Even though the jury's not in, just to err on the side of safety I would try and limit the amount of electromagnetic radiation that you're exposed to," he said.

"The American government, for example, recommend that all electrical appliances should be put at the foot of the bed and not the head of the bed.

"Electric blankets should be turned off before you get in bed and definitely wait for those five beeps before you open the microwave.

"With the mobile phone I encourage you to put it on loudspeaker and step outside rather than sticking it up to your brain."

Dr Teo, who tackles tumours other surgeons deem inoperable, said some hair dyes, particularly red, could also cause brain cancer in people with a predisposition.

"The body needs some genetic predisposition. The hair dye, the mobile phone, they're just catalysts but you probably need some sort of genetic aberration to get the cancer in the first place," he said.

Fast cancers

Dr Teo, who stars in Channel Seven's Last Chance Surgery, was in Melbourne recently for the Blackwood8 fundraiser at Croydon golf club.

The group was founded by family and friends of Sally White, a patient of Dr Teo's whose outlook has improved dramatically.

Dr Teo said while breast cancer doubled its cell numbers in weeks or months, the quickest brain cancers took just 16 hours.

No age group was immune and the incidence of brain tumours was growing.

"It's increasing in frequency both in this country and developing countries and it used to be ranked out of the top 10 but it's just joined the top 10 most common cancers," he said.

Recent studies have raised alarm bells about mobile phones.

An unreleased World Health Organisation study reportedly found "a significantly increased risk" of some brain tumours related to use of mobile phones for 10 years or more.

A Suleyman Demirel University study in Turkey also found wearing a mobile phone on your belt may lead to decreased bone density in an area of the pelvis commonly used for bone grafts.

Dr Teo said there had been some advancements in treating tumours, like microwave therapy and putting chemotherapy directly into a tumour. A healthy diet, meditation and positive thought could also be beneficial.

"We believe that they probably boost the immune system," he said.

Dr Teo's tips to reduce brain tumour risks

- Get eight hours sleep a night and eat well to boost your immune system
- Keep electrical appliances like clock radios at the foot of the bed
- Turn electric blankets off before retiring
- Put mobile phones on hands-free
- Wait until the microwave finishes beeping before opening it













愛情陪伴婚姻慢慢變老

在一次聚會中,一個文友給我講了關於他和他妻子的愛情故
事。他和她相戀在大學校園,他性情溫和、生性木訥,她活潑開朗、動不動就喜歡耍脾氣。他家境貧寒,戀愛時他沒給 她買過貴重的物品,不過他的愛卻細緻入微。每次回家,他 從母親的瓜圜裡挑最好的瓜果讓她品嘗,甚至他把熬夜寫作 累生的白髮拔下來,一根根積累著,編織成一枚白髮戒指,準備找個機會送給她。

她家境富裕,嗜好看書,而且偏愛關於愛情的書籍。書看多了,她總喜歡學著書上說的,揣摩他對她的愛有多深?日後的婚姻有多美滿?他常被她稀奇古怪關於愛情婚姻的測試題 弄得一頭霧水,不過一次一次答題,他的答案還令她滿意。 就這樣他們相戀了三年,走上社會,他向她求婚。

可她一想到婚姻,就有些害怕將來若是一天沒有了愛的婚姻降臨,其實她完全是受「婚姻是愛情的墳墓」這句話的影響。一天,她拿著只為了「婚姻是愛情的墳墓」的一頁紙找到他,對他說,把這句話再延寫兩句,寫得好,同意求婚,否 則……。他被她這種做法弄糊塗了,可又不想放棄她,面對 紙張他不敢輕易下筆,畢竟這關係到他和她一生情感的答卷

為了讓自己的頭腦清醒一下,他回鄉幫母親料理瓜園。那天 正好是她母親55歲的生日,同時也是父母親結婚30周年紀念日,在他眼中,父母親是沒有愛情的。不過到了晚上,父親的舉動卻讓他找到「續寫」的答案。那天晚上,父親採 摘了一大束他母親喜歡的南瓜花回來,插在花瓶裡,端端正 正放在母親的床頭。看到父親這麼簡單的舉動,他激動了, 原來父母也有愛情。

於是第二天他早早回城,在她的那頁紙上寫道:「愛情是婚 姻的墳墓旁的一叢野花,天真爛漫,讓愛情陪伴婚姻慢慢變 老……」後來,她看到他的續寫,流著淚同意了他的求婚。 現在文友和他妻愛情依舊天真爛漫,他們完全遵循了紙上的 諾言生活著。

一對中年夫婦,在兒子未出生前,他們總喜歡在婚姻中搞一些細節證明愛情的鮮活。然而,兒子出生後,當醫生告訴他們兒子有點先天性失聰時,他們變得沉默了,愛情細節也隨之從生活中消失,他們把全部的精力花在兒子身上。在別人眼中他們的婚姻像一只普通的碗,被兒子端著。可他們從不 放棄對兒子像正常孩子一樣的教育。

漸漸孩子長大了,雖說沒有一般孩子聰明,但他能說話、會笑,懂得了愛與被愛,而且還上了學。一天,兒子的老師布 置了一篇作文題目《我的父親母親》,兒子很想把自己的作 文寫得與眾不同。晚上,兒子拿出作文本,一會看看父親,一會兒又看看母親,突然大聲地問他們:「爸媽,你們還有 沒有愛情? 聽人說,我還未出生前,你們的愛情很精彩!」

他和她被兒子突如其來的問話一下子怔住了,再看看兒子的作文本,他們知道了兒子的用心,幾乎是異口同聲:「我們 有愛情呀,就是你呀,你是我們愛的結晶,你成長的每一階 段就是我們愛情的精彩處呀! 」兒子一聽他們如此說,快樂地拍起手。於是兒子在他的作 文結尾處寫道:「原來,爸媽的愛情是陪伴婚姻慢慢變老,正如我的成長過程!」

在我花店門前的馬路上,清晨或傍晚,經常看到一對滿頭白髮的老人在散步。當他們走過花店總會停下,老先生帶著微笑親自從花桶裡挑一支玫瑰或百合或勿忘我。爾後自己修枝 剪葉,放在心上祈禱一下,送到老太太手中。老太太一接到花,露出少女般的羞澀,爾後結伴而去。每次看到這樣的場景,我總感動得淚流滿面。一天,我抑制不住內心好奇,對 前來買花的老先生小聲地問道:「老爺子您的心靈真年輕, 老太太年輕時遇到你,真是一生的幸福!如今有幾對夫婦能 享受到如此悠長而美麗的愛情呢?」

老爺子一聽,連忙從花桶裡挑了一支玫瑰給我,說:「 其實,讓愛情鮮活很容易,只你心中對愛人有愛,愛情的舉動隨 處可生。買花對於我們其實只是一項,老伴陪我釣魚,靜守 在我身邊,這也是一種愛情呀!把你手中的玫瑰送給你的愛 人。他一定欣喜的,以後,他也會學著你的樣子做出別的愛的舉動。久而久之,這愛情就像流動的小溪,永遠清澈美麗 。姑娘,學會讓愛情陪伴你的婚姻,那樣你們到老愛情也年 輕!

恍惚中,我才深知老人的話外之音 ──讓愛情陪伴婚姻慢慢變老,這是夫妻雙方情感的交融,是家庭的清新劑,是愛與被愛的延伸。

其實,讓愛情陪伴婚姻慢慢變老,只是一句流傳亙古的老話,誰步入婚姻殿堂沒聽到過「百年好合,白頭偕老」的祝福?關鍵是有的夫妻聽時一陣激動,有的夫妻聽時卻是一輩子的感激……。










要保护视力啊

一个医生自白:医学界的一个惊天阴谋—近视手术

在当前,中国近视眼发病率超过30%,而在中学生中,其发病率超过一半,而在大学生中的发病率竟高达74%!针对这一问题,出现了一种治疗近视眼的方法:LASIK。
LASIK激光手术作为最近风靡一时的治疗近视眼的方法,从1997年开展第一例LASIK手术以来,至今为止,全中国约有几百万例病人实施了这一手术。LASIK能在短时间内使患者提高了视力,从而吸引了成千上万迫切想要摘除眼镜的人。然而,这些人中,绝大部分都是对这一手术一无所知的人,而在许多医院的眼科中心,为什么仍有那么多医生带着眼镜?为什么放着那么好的手术不做?一直在几个月前,我才弄明白这是个阴谋!近视手术是近年来医学界最大的阴谋!

本人的一位朋友在2002年的3月在全国一家具有眼科特色的、非常有名的三级甲等医院实施了LASIK手术,在手术前,通过了医院的所有检查,且检查结果为一切正常,角膜地形图未发现任何异常,我那位朋友如愿地摘掉了那副850度的眼镜, 然而就在一个月前,我那位朋友发觉自己的视力竟大幅回退,且有大量不规则散光,后来到另一家医院检查,最后确诊为圆锥角膜。圆锥角膜的最终结果就是角膜移植,而角膜供体又十分紧张,我的那位朋友现在的感觉是生不如死。要知道我那位朋友只有30多岁啊,现在丈夫等着和她离婚。而她做手术前,我得知其在该三甲医院手术,当时也未表示任何异议。

作为一名医生,对于眼科知识略知一二,下面我就对于这一问题发表我个人的看法。
首先,LASIK的原理是在角膜上130-160um(1um为1/1000毫米)处做一个瓣,相当于一个在角膜上的凹透镜,通过改变角膜基质的曲率,以达到矫正近视的目的。然而,角膜基质不能无限制地切削,必须保留一定的安全厚度,一般公认为410um(至今还无确切的证据证明),或者说,角膜基质的厚度必须保留250以上 ,否则就会出现圆锥角膜。而一个正常人的角膜厚度约在500到600um之间 ,而每减少100度近视,按照6.5mm的切削直径(切削范围)要切削14um的深度,而按照6.0的切削直径,则每100度要切削12个单位,此外,散光所要切削的厚度和近视是一样的。所以,度数越深越容易发生危险。而由于410是个下限,近视加散光共600-800度左右的人一般切削好以后就濒临这个下限,很容易出现问题。

那么,LASIK致命的缺点是什么呢?我们知道,正常的角膜足能抵挡的住眼内压对于角膜的压力。而由于LASIK切削的是角膜组织,切削后的角膜组织无法抵挡得住眼内压对于角膜的压力,因而角膜会逐渐变尖,最终形成圆锥角膜,圆锥角膜的后果是使视力永远丧失。而一些医院为了获取暴利,没有将这一后果告知患者.另外,医院所说的激光手术不会致盲的观点是错误的,而圆锥角膜就可以被认为是间接的致盲。
此外,一些医院认为保留410就是安全底线,那么请问有何依据?低于410会产生圆锥角膜,那么谁能保证那些角膜厚度濒临下限的人不会在10年左右时间内,角膜逐渐变形而产生圆锥角膜?又有哪位眼科权威人士能站出来保证那些因高度近视(600度以上)而需要切削较多角膜组织的人不会在15年或是20年后出现问题呢?

我们知道,一项医学技术从发明到适用于临床,必须经过一个观察期。LASIK技术在中国开始实行才不过仅仅8年不到时间,而中国的广大眼科医生却将其广泛适用于临床,他们明知道这一手术的危险性(稍微对于眼科有所了解的人都能理解,更何况是医生),却冒天下之大不韪,欺瞒广大患者,把广大患者的眼睛当作试验品,请问你们还是人吗?
医生被称做是白医天使,你们的职责是救人,而不是为了瓜分一个市场而去把一项不成熟的技术用来害人!
实行了LASIK后所产生的圆锥角膜目前在医学上被认为是绝症,最后只能用角膜移植来解决问题!每一例手术能为你们带来上千元的利润,而为了这些利润,你们竟然把广大的患者当实验品,隐瞒手术风险,而使广大的患者冒着在若干年后要成为盲人或准盲人的风险,你们心中何安!在几百万人的眼中埋下一颗定时BoB!!!,你们良心何存?!
现在大城市的三级甲等医院都出现了问题,请问你们那些不发达地区的小医院又拿什么担保手术的安全性呢?

任何一个看到这篇文章的有良知的人,如果你觉得这篇文章有道理的,请你转发到别的地方,让更多的人了解事实的真相。广大患者尤其是青年朋友,如果你们不怕在若干年后正值事业颠峰且作为家庭鼎梁柱的你们成为一个盲人或准盲人这一事实,请你们大胆地去成为医生的实验品吧!

Wednesday, May 12, 2010

WHY GOD ALLOWS PAIN...

A man went to a barbershop to have his hair cut and his beard trimmed.
As the barber began to work, they began to have a good conversation.
They talked about so many things and various subjects.
When they eventually touched on the subject of God, the barber said:
"I don't believe that God exists."

"Why do you say that?" asked the customer. "Well, you just have to go out in the street to realize that God doesn't exist.
Tell me, if God exists, would there be so many sick people?
Would there be abandoned children?

If God existed, there would be neither suffering nor pain.
I can't imagine a loving God who would allow all of these things."
The customer thought for a moment, but didn't respond because he didn't want to start an argument.
The barber finished his job and the customer left the shop.

Just after he left the barbershop, he saw a man in the street with long, stringy, dirty hair and an untrimmed beard.
He looked dirty and unkempt. The customer turned back and entered the barber shop again and he said to the barber:
"You know what? Barbers do not exist."
"How can you say that?" asked the surprised barber.
"I am here, and I am a barber. And I just worked on you!"
"No!" the customer exclaimed. "Barbers don't exist because
if they did, there would be no people with dirty long hair and untrimmed beards, like that man outside."

"Ah, but barbers DO exist! That's what happens when people do not come to me."
"Exactly!" affirmed the customer. "That's the point! God, too, DOES exist!
That's what happens when people do not go to Him and don't look to Him for help.
That's why there's so much pain and suffering in the world."

If you think God exists, send this to other people---
If you think God does not exist, delete it!

BE BLESSED & BE A BLESSING TO OTHERS !!!!!!!

Tuesday, May 11, 2010

聪明的女孩知道的事

1,万一不小心喝醉了酒,不要打电话给任何人,包括死党和他。

2,如果发短信息给你喜欢的人,他不回。不要再发。

3,如果没有人陪,学着一个人听音乐看书写文字。这是个好习惯。

4,爱父母,每周一次打电话或者抽时间共进晚餐。

5,相信一见钟情的爱情,相信总有一个人会在岁月的拐角处静静的等你。只是你要擦亮眼睛,细心寻找。

6,天真纯洁很好。但是不分场合的天真就会成为白痴行为。

7,对于不想交往的人,不要应邀去吃饭喝咖啡,哪怕只是一块钱。没有后续发展和希望的交往,会浪费人家的钱和感情,这叫贪图享乐。贪慕虚荣的女子会让人瞧不起。如果实在碍于朋友介绍的情面挪不开,记得AA制。

8,学会承受痛苦。有些话,适合烂在心里,有些痛苦,适合无声无息的忘记。当经历过,你成长了,自己知道就好。很多改变,不需要你自己说,别人会看得到。

9,穿有质感的衣服,找有质量的男朋友。他不一定很有钱,但是一定要能让你有安全感和开心。

10,如果有可能,尽量留长发。短发确实打理起来容易一些,但始终少了些女人味。

11,要相信自己,善待自己,让自己的生活精彩纷呈。不要误认为是要让某个人后悔,而是为了让自己的人生更精彩。

12,要有几个死党,独自一人的时候,保证还能有死党为你端茶送水。而不是声竭力嘶的嚎叫为什么说爱你的那个人不能来陪你。

13,买适合自己的衣服、饰物。适合你的就是最好的,所以不必羡慕别人的行头。

14,宁缺毋滥。不要因为寂寞随手抓一个男人,这对你和他都不公平,而且太缺乏责任感。

15,要穿高跟鞋,但是不要高的太过分。

16,任何时候,不要为一个负心的男人伤心,女子更要懂得,伤心,最终伤的是自己的心。如果那个男人是无情的,你更是伤不到他的心,所以 ,收拾悲伤,好好生活。

17,如果一个男人开始怠慢你,请你离开他。不懂得疼惜你的男人不要为之不舍,更不必继续付出你的柔情和爱情。

18,永远不要无休止的围着你喜欢的那个男人转,尽管你喜欢得他快要掏心掏肺的死掉了,也还是要学着给他空间,否则,你要小心缠得太紧勒死了他。

19,对你不喜欢的追求者的示好和关心坚定的说不和拒绝。即使他说,这不关你的事。

20,认真的对待你的工作。工作也许不如爱情来的让你心跳,但至少能保证你有饭吃,有房子住,而不确定的爱情给不了这些,所以,认真努力的工作。

21,不管和谁有了矛盾和别扭,解决的时间不要超过24小时。否则麻烦会更多。在可以接受的范围内,先道歉。让自己做做坏人不是件真的坏事。

22,不要爱上已婚却还对你信誓旦旦说会抛妻弃子迎娶你的男人。如果他们真的没感情,自然会离婚,而不是整日对你说些莫名其妙的话。

23,做个睿智的女子。学会从容面对生活。积极面对生活,生活定会如你所愿,如同明早,太阳依旧会如时升起

24,从现在开始,聪明一点,不要问他想不想你?爱不爱你?他要想你或者爱你自然会对你说,但是从你的嘴里说出来,他会很骄傲和不在乎你。

25,晚上早点回家,自己没有车,超过十点要打的士,或者让人来接。

26,如果喜欢一个人,在允许的情况下,告诉对方。也许得不到答案,但至少你努力过,将来不必后悔

27,如果决定离开一个人,行动要快一点,快刀斩乱麻;如果决定爱上一个人,时间拉长一点,看清楚是否适合你

28,不要为了任何人任何事折磨自己。比如不吃饭、哭泣、自闭、抑郁,这些都是傻瓜才做的事。当然,偶尔傻一下有必要,人生不必时时聪明。

29,任何情况下,背后不说他人是非。如果一定要你说,说好话

30,有一个最少两年内需要达成的目标。有目标的人生不会太无聊。

31,如果哪个男人说了让你难堪的话,原谅他。一个被原谅的男人最后会后悔失去一个像你这么宽容的女朋友。

32,一定要有几个男性朋友,没有非分之想,能在受到委屈时拿胸口当沙包给你锤,你也能帮他出主意追女朋友,并可以深夜里把他从床上揪起来去很远的地方接你。当然,首先你要让他女朋友或者太太认可你。否则不要试。不是所有的 事,都有完美的结局。该走的走,该留的留。是我的早晚都一样,不会溜走的…






很多情侶,都敗給了距離

1、短信听不到语气,电话看不到表情。

其实我没生气,你当真了;我在笑呢,你看不到吧;

我哭了呢,抱着手机哭倦了睡过又醒了,你在忙吗 ?

2、共同语言。

如果两个人在一起,两个人的交往圈会融为共同的圈子,话题永远都在更新。

而不在一起的两个人,对彼此身边的环境都会因陌生而逐渐失去兴趣。

慢慢的,能说的话只有空洞的 ‘我想你’ 。

我在努力找话题呢,不要回信说 ‘哦、嗯、好’ 了好吗 ?

3、沒安全感。

看了10次手机了,你还是没有回信。

你在哪、和谁、在干什么 ?

刚刚拒绝了别人的好意,却禁不住想,

你身边的莺莺燕燕,一如我身边的花花草草吗 ?

4、远水不救近火。

我这里下雨了,来送伞的是同学的弟弟;

我吃饭忘带钱了,来解围的是朋友的朋友。

原来你不吭声是因为你生病了,

可我再担忧,也不能在你身边端一杯水…

5、距离产生幻觉。

其实我有些小虚荣,照片有时候修掉了眼袋才给你看;

其实你有些小自负,认定了的事情就以为自己一定对。

为了大老远的爱你,我拒绝接受身边一切说你不好的言论,什么都往好的方向想。

你也是吧 ?

其实我们都不是对方想象的那样好……

6、距离产生误会。

我兴冲冲地发短信给你讲刚刚的趣事,你隔了半天说 ‘噢’,

我不知道你在忙的嘛,所以我生闷气了。

你给我发了八条短信两个电话我也没回,愤怒得嗷嗷直叫,

我在做上课呢,手机调振动了的嘛。

其实我们都知道对方不是故意的,但情绪来了,总需要宣泄的。

7、善意的谎言。

我碰巧和相熟的男生去看电影了,想了想,对你说和女生去的。

你独自去了我们约好要一起去的地方,犹豫再三,对我说你哪都没去。

不愿让对方多想,却因为偶尔的疏忽,让对方想得更多。

8、寂寞。

一个人不寂寞,想念一个人才寂寞。

你说,来,抱抱。于是我把自己裹在被窝里,闭上眼,恩,抱抱。

一个人站在夜空下时,你会抬头看月亮吗 ?

9、信念坍塌。

我看到身边一对一对的,男生帮女生打开水送饭,

在宿舍楼下卿卿我我,周末还能一起爬山,

没忍住就对在地图对角线上的你发牢骚,

其实是想听你的鼓励,想听听你的安慰,你的一个电话就能让我安心。

可也许刚刚好你接到朋友异地恋分手倾诉的电话,

那么容易就把自己带入了戏,无心的抱怨雪上加霜。

有时候折腾一下,只为了证明自己的重要性。

哪知脆弱基础上的高楼只须多压上一根头发的重量,也许就崩溃了。

10、你的真心。

人心隔肚皮,更何况我们还隔着千山万水。

男生永远无法理解女生为什么需要浓浓的表达爱意,

正如我永远不知道你为何可以那样轻轻的表明心意。









A very painful lesson

i know all new clothes must washed bef wearing, sis from Polo told me.
cant take a single chance of not washing.

bcos thaty day i took out a new bra to wear to match with my blouse, very rush, no wash
but that day too rush and cant believe will kena with just once.


metronidazole is for fungal infection
unasyn is for bacteria
so he is trying to 'cover' everything

Monday, May 10, 2010

女人的種類

转贴http://lyheng.blogspot.com/


女人的種類多不勝數, 但常見的有幾種....
1.她是女人. 她愛男人.
2.她是女人. 她不愛男人.
3.她是女人. 她愛男人也愛女人.
4.她是女人. 她不愛男人愛女人.
5.她是女人. 她不愛男人也不愛女人, 她只愛她自己.
6.她是女人. 她不愛女人愛男人, 但她偏愛別人的男人.

前面的幾種女人對我而言, 只能說她有她的性格, 只要不傷害或打擾別人, 她也不就只是一個女人....
至於第6種..... 我最近見不少. 這種女人有可以分為常見的兩種
1. 她偏愛別人的男人, 特愛拆散別人, 然後把男人佔為己有.
2. 她偏愛別人的男人, 但在想盡方法拆散人家之後就把男人拋開了.
前者只能說她愛到無可救藥, 算是悲劇人物.
后者最賤. 這種女人最常用的招數就是在別的女人面前靠近人家的男人,當人家沒到的同時, 還擺出一副跟男人很親的樣子. 其實她跟男人平時可能沒那麼的親密, 但她偏偏最愛在男人的伴侶前跟男人動手動腳, 只差沒整個人掛在男人身上.
這種情況之下的男人其實很可憐, 閃不掉賤女人又得看伴侶的臉色......

當然有些男人帶著一種心態, 送上門的女人不吃白不吃, 因而順了賤女人的意, 成功把人家情侶的關係搞砸.
也許我該提醒男人們, 女人的直覺很準確. 當你的伴侶開始告訴你她在在意你身邊某位女性的時候, 想辦法儘量遠離這種女人, 無可避免的話也至少該把自己的立場表明. 也許你們覺得沒甚麼, 但看在伴侶的眼里那是很刺眼的......

Friday, May 7, 2010

Love & Marriage

愛情陪伴婚姻慢慢變老

在一次聚會中,一個文友給我講了關於他和他妻子的愛情故事。 他和她相戀在大學校園,他性情溫和、生性木訥,她活潑 開朗、動不動就喜歡耍脾氣。他家境貧寒,戀愛時他沒給她 買過貴重的物品,不過他的愛卻細緻入微。每次回家,他從 母親的瓜圜裡挑最好的瓜果讓她品嘗,甚至他把熬夜寫作累 生的白髮拔下來,一根根積累著,編織成一枚白髮戒指,準備找 個機會送給她。

她家境富裕,嗜好看書,而且偏愛關於愛情的書籍。書看多了, 她總喜歡學著書上說的,揣摩他對她的愛有多深?日後的 婚姻有多美滿?他常被她稀奇古怪關於愛情婚姻的測試題弄 得一頭霧水,不過一次一次答題,他的答案還令她滿意。就這樣 他們相戀了三年,走上社會,他向她求婚。

可她一想到婚姻,就有些害怕將來若是一天沒有了愛的婚姻降 臨,其實她完全是受「婚姻是愛情的墳墓」這句話的影響。 一天,她拿著只為了「婚姻是愛情的墳墓」的一頁紙找到他, 對他說,把這句話再延寫兩句,寫得好,同意求婚,否則……。 他被她這種做法弄糊塗了,可又不想放棄她,面對紙 張他不敢輕易下筆,畢竟這關係到他和她一生情感的答卷

為了讓自己的頭腦清醒一下,他回鄉幫母親料理瓜園。那天正 好是她母親55歲的生日,同時也是父母親結婚30周年紀 念日,在他眼中,父母親是沒有愛情的。不過到了晚上,父 親的舉動卻讓他找到「續寫」的答案。那天晚上,父親採摘 了一大束他母親喜歡的南瓜花回來,插在花瓶裡,端端正正 放在母親的床頭。看到父親這麼簡單的舉動,他激動了,原來父 母也有愛情。

於是第二天他早早回城,在她的那頁紙上寫道:「愛情是婚姻 的墳墓旁的一叢野花,天真爛漫,讓愛情陪伴婚姻慢慢變老……」 後來,她看到他的續寫,流著淚同意了他的求婚。現 在文友和他妻愛情依舊天真爛漫,他們完全遵循了紙上的諾言生 活著。

一對中年夫婦,在兒子未出生前,他們總喜歡在婚姻中搞一些 細節證明愛情的鮮活。然而,兒子出生後,當醫生告訴他們 兒子有點先天性失聰時,他們變得沉默了,愛情細節也隨之 從生活中消失,他們把全部的精力花在兒子身上。在別人眼 中他們的婚姻像一只普通的碗,被兒子端著。可他們從不放棄對 兒子像正常孩子一樣的教育。

漸漸孩子長大了,雖說沒有一般孩子聰明,但他能說話、會笑, 懂得了愛與被愛,而且還上了學。一天,兒子的老師布置 了一篇作文題目《我的父親母親》,兒子很想把自己的作文 寫得與眾不同。晚上,兒子拿出作文本,一會看看父親,一 會兒又看看母親,突然大聲地問他們:「爸媽,你們還有沒有愛 情? 聽人說,我還未出生前,你們的愛情很精彩!」

他和她被兒子突如其來的問話一下子怔住了,再看看兒子的作 文本,他們知道了兒子的用心,幾乎是異口同聲:「我們有 愛情呀,就是你呀,你是我們愛的結晶,你成長的每一階段 就是我們愛情的精彩處呀! 」兒子一聽他們如此說,快樂地拍起手。於是兒子在他的作文結尾處寫道:「原來,爸媽的愛情是陪伴婚姻慢慢變老,正如我的成長過程!」

在我花店門前的馬路上,清晨或傍晚,經常看到一對滿頭白髮 的老人在散步。當他們走過花店總會停下,老先生帶著微笑 親自從花桶裡挑一支玫瑰或百合或勿忘我。爾後自己修枝剪 葉,放在心上祈禱一下,送到老太太手中。老太太一接到花, 露出少女般的羞澀,爾後結伴而去。每次看到這樣的場景, 我總感動得淚流滿面。一天,我抑制不住內心好奇,對前 來買花的老先生小聲地問道:「老爺子您的心靈真年輕,老 太太年輕時遇到你,真是一生的幸福!如今有幾對夫婦能享受到 如此悠長而美麗的愛情呢?」

老爺子一聽,連忙從花桶裡挑了一支玫瑰給我,說:「其實, 讓愛情鮮活很容易,只你心中對愛人有愛,愛情的舉動隨處 可生。買花對於我們其實只是一項,老伴陪我釣魚,靜守在 我身邊,這也是一種愛情呀!把你手中的玫瑰送給你的愛人。 他一定欣喜的,以後,他也會學著你的樣子做出別的愛的 舉動。久而久之,這愛情就像流動的小溪,永遠清澈美麗。 姑娘,學會讓愛情陪伴你的婚姻,那樣你們到老愛情也年輕!」

恍惚中,我才深知老人的話外之音 ──讓愛情陪伴婚姻慢慢變老,這是夫妻雙方情感的交融,是家庭的清新劑,是愛與被愛的延伸。

其實,讓愛情陪伴婚姻慢慢變老,只是一句流傳亙古的老話, 誰步入婚姻殿堂沒聽到過「百年好合,白頭偕老」的祝福? 關鍵是有的夫妻聽時一陣激動,有的夫妻聽時卻是一輩子的感 激……。








Thursday, May 6, 2010

The reason why u so tired: too acidic blood

I read recently that if you take fruits on an empty stomach even acidic fruits will turn alkali!

Under weakly alkaline condition, cancerous cells will not be able to grow, or even to survive.
在弱鹼性體質的狀態下,癌細胞是無法生長、甚至是無法生存的。

Actual case studies, very important, please read patiently and pass this on.
實案例,很重要,請耐心看完,請轉寄哦!!

Even if you have read this before, you should reread this, especially the list of acidic and alkaline foodstuff , best to read several times and remember.
即使看過了還是要再看,尤其下面的酸鹼性食物最好多看幾次,就可以記住了

Please read this article in full patiently, it will be helpful to your health.
請耐心看完這篇文章,對自身健康很有幫助

More than 30 years ago, a Mr Zhang who worked in the public sales department of a Taipei Brewery, participated in the brewery overseas study selection examination, and passed with flying colours..
三十多年前有一位服務於公賣局台北啤酒廠的張先生,參加該啤酒場選派技術人員到國外深造的考試,以優異的成績及格。

Before going overseas during the physical examination at a public hospital, it was discovered that he had a tumour growth in his lung the size of a child's fist, and therefore was not able to go overseas to study.
在出國前經某公立醫院體檢發現,罹患有像小孩拳頭大小的肺部腫瘤,因而不能出國。

The greatly disappointed Mr Zhang had always been suspicious that the diagnosis was wrong. So he went to another hospital for a check-up, the result confirm that previous diagnosis was not in error.
張先生非常失望之餘,一直懷疑診斷有誤;於是再到另一家醫院檢查,結果還是證實原來的診斷並無錯誤。

For the youthful and healthy Mr Zhang to be stricken down with such terminal illness, in his despair, he rang his old classmate who at the time was Taidong County Government, Huangsun County Mayor's secretary, Mr Wei.
當時年輕力壯的張先生得到這樣的絕症,在人生絕望之餘,多次打電話給當時任職台東縣政府黃順興縣長機要秘書的魏姓同學。

Mr Wei rushed to Taipei during his rest day on a Sunday to see Mr Zhang.
魏姓同學便利用星期日趕到台北和張先生見面,

Mr Zhang discussed with Mr Wei in detail his despair and pessimism, and entrusted his friend regarding his affairs after his death. Coincidentally, Mr Wei was a good friend of Dr Lu Geling, who was in charge of the Maijie Hospital, 1945-55, and specialised in the clinical research into cancer cases.
張先生向魏同學詳述相關絕望的詳情和悲觀感受,並請位同學協助其後事,恰逢魏同學與前任馬偕醫院院長1949-55年專精於癌症臨床研究的呂革令 博士係知交好友。

He immediately suggested that Mr Zhang go to see Dr Lu for treatment. At first, Mr Zhang said he preferred not to see anymore doctors, so as not to add further to his misery.
當即建議前往訪求呂博士醫治,起初張先生說不願再看醫生,以免徒增傷悲;

But Mr Wei told him that he had telephoned Dr Lu before to seek his advice and arranged an appointment. Mr Zhang felt obligated and went with Mr Wei to meet Dr Lu
但魏同學說先前已以電話請教過呂博士並安排好時間,張先生只好偕同前往呂博士住處造訪。

When Dr Lu met with Mr Zhang, Dr Lu said: ' Mr Wei is a friend and introduced you and I to get to know each other. This is destiny. Thank you. Let me ask you do you know why is cancer referred to as terminal illness?'
呂博士和張先生見面就說:「魏先生是我的好友,介紹你和我認識是我們緣份,感謝。我請教你:『癌為什麼叫絕症,你可知道嗎?』」

Both Mr Zhang and Mr Wei did not know how to answer.
張先生和魏先生都不知道如何作答。

Dr Lu explained: 'There are only two approaches taken by humans to treat cancer to-date The first is to destroy the source of the disease. The second is to increase the capability to fight the disease.
呂博士又說:「人類醫治癌症到目前為止只有兩條路,第一條路是消滅病源,第二條路是增加抵抗力。

But the strange thing is that, whether we use Cobalt 60 or other drugs to destroy the cancer cells, before the cancer cells are killed, the good cells are destroyed first.
但很奇怪的是,癌無論用鈷60或其他藥物去消滅癌細胞,可是癌細胞還沒被消滅,好的細胞卻先被殺死。

On the other hand, no matter what nutrients or supplements we use, before the good cells have a chance to absorb them, the cancer cells have taken them up and it simply speeds up the growth of cancer.
另無論用什麼營養、補藥,好的細胞還未吸收,癌細胞卻先吸收、讓癌長得更快;

Therefore both approaches are doomed to failure, that is why cancer is terminal.'
因此可說上述兩條路都行不通、所以叫絕症。」

Dr Lu continues: 'Human beings are most clever, they have successfully landed on the moon. But why is it no one ever questioned the above two approaches for treating cancer which are nothing but self defeating dead-ends, and try to seek a third avenue?
呂博士又說:「人類的聰明連登陸月球也都已經成功,但為什麼沒有人去懷疑上述兩條治癌的路是在鑽牛角尖,另外找第三條路?

When I was conducting clinical research in Majie Hospital, I had many opportunities to work with and being helped by many colleagues in the Hospital. I discovered that the blood tests of 100% of the cancer patients showed that the blood samples are acidic.
我以往在馬偕醫院做癌症临床實驗,並得院內各部同仁協助的機會,我發現癌症病人血液檢查的結果百分之百都是酸性反應。

Those Buddhist monks and nuns who are long term vegetarians and live very close to Nature, their blood are prevalently weakly alkaline and amongst them, there has yet to discover any cancer cases.
長期素食、且生活接近自然的佛寺僧尼,由於體質都偏屬優質弱鹼性,所以尚沒有發現罹患癌症的病例。

Therefore, I boldly concluded that under weakly alkaline condition, cancer cells are not able to grow, or even to survive.
因此我大膽的斷定在弱鹼性體質的狀態下,癌細胞是無法生長、甚至是無法生存的。

Mr Zhang, I would suggest that starting from now you reduce your intake of the acidic meaty dishes.
張先生我建議你從現在起少吃酸性的葷食類,

Take more of the alkaline food. In addition you can take green algae and soup made from water chestnuts with skin,
多吃鹼性食物,另外可吃綠藻和帶殼菱角湯,

modify your physical condition, and try seriously to have a regular life style which is close to Nature;
改變你的體質,並勵行接近自然的良好生活規律;

If you can manage to stay alive for five years, you should have no further problem. I wish you the best of luck.'
如果五年內不死、你就沒問題了,祝福你。」

Mr Zhang followed Dr Lu's suggestion and seriously altered his eating habits.
張先生依照呂博士的建議,認真改變吃的習慣,

Every day, he ate green algae, drank chestnut soup, be optimistic and did an appropriate amount of exercise, and went back to the same public hospital for a check up. It was discovered that not only that the tumour did not increase in size, on the contrary it showed signs of shrinking, and surprised the hospital staff conducting the check-up as a miracle. Five years later, the tumour had shrunk to such a state as to almost disappear.
每天又吃綠藻、喝菱角湯,樂觀加上每天適當的運動,一年後再到同一公立醫院檢查結果,發現腫瘤不但沒有長大、反而已呈現萎縮狀態,遂令醫院檢查人 員驚為奇蹟,五年後竟完全處於萎縮、至近於消失狀態。

After almost 40 years, presently Mr Zhang's health is totally normal, and living a very pleasant life.
經過了將近四十年歲月,現在張先生的健康情況完全正常,生活起居甚為愉快。

Following Mr Zhang, a Mr Chen Tianshou, who was previously Head of the General Administration of the Taidong Provincial Hospital, was similarly diagnosed with lung cancer.
繼張先生之後,有位前台東省立醫院總務課長陳添壽先生,同樣得到肺癌;

When Mr Wei heard of this, he told Mr Chen of the experience of Mr Zhang, and Mr Chen started to follow the instructions of Dr Lu to change his physical condition. The outcome was that he was able to recover fully from the cancer, just like Mr Zhang.
魏先生得知後將張先生的經過轉告陳添壽先生,陳先生乃依照呂博士的建議進行改變體質,結果與張先生同樣癒癌症。

At that time, Mr Lu and his family have emigrated to the United States. After the two cases, he returned to Taiwan and met up with Mr Wei.
那時呂博士全家已移民美國,事後呂博士回來台灣再與魏先生見面時,

Mr Wei told Dr Lu about the experiences of Mr Zhang and Mr Chen, and suggested that let the two of them detailed their experiences to Dr Lu in person, so that Dr Lu could publish a report on his self cure body conditioning method.
魏先生將張先生和陳先生的經過告訴呂博士,並提議由他們倆位親自向呂博士陳述,請呂博士發表其改變體質之自療成果報告。

Dr Lu very humbly replied:
呂博士謙虛地回答說:
'I am too old, besides, I do not have any clinical records of the outcomes. I would ask that you tell your friends and relatives, if they are agreeable, then please continue this experience and spread the words ⋯ ⋯
我年事已大,且沒有臨床紀錄不能做為成果。請魏先生轉告親友,如果友人認同的話,請他們繼續做體驗並廣為宣導.........。」

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One should take care of oneself but should also be caring about others, 85% of cancer patients have acidic in their physical condition.
關心自己也要關心別人,85﹪癌症病患屬於酸性體質

*** Blood of healthy persons is weakly alkaline in nature, with a pH of about 7.35 to 7.45
* 健康人的血液是成弱鹼性的,約是pH7.35〜7.45左右

*** Babies' blood is also weakly acidic
* 嬰兒也是屬於弱鹼性的體質

*** As adults mature their blood becomes more acidic in nature
* 成長期的成人有體質酸化的現象

According to a study of 600 cancer patients, of their bodily fluid, 85% of the patients are acidic .
根據一項六百位癌症病人體液分佈的研究,顯示85﹪癌症病患屬於酸性體質。

Therefore, how to maintain the weakly acidic nature of our body is the first step for moving far away from diseases.
因此,如何使體質維持在弱鹼性就是遠離疾病的第一步。

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Acidic physical conditions manifest itself in:

酸性體質的生理表徵

1. Skin without lustre
1.皮膚無光澤。

2. Athlete's foot
2.香港腳。

3. Feeling tire even with very little exercise, and feeling sleep the moment one gets on to public buses
3.稍做運動即感疲勞,一上公車便想睡覺。

4. Easily out of breath going up and down stairs
4.上下樓梯容易氣喘。

5. Fat and with lower stomach protruding,
5.肥胖、下腹突出。

6. Move slowly and movement lethargic
6.步伐緩慢、動作遲緩。

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Why does the body physical condition turn acidic? 為什麼會形成酸性體質?
1. Excessive intake of dairy acidic food
1.過度攝取乳酸性食品

a) meat, dairy products, eggs, beef, ham, etc are acidic food
a)肉類、乳酪製品與蛋、牛肉、火腿等皆屬於酸性食品。

b) taking too much acidic food will cause the blood to become acidic and viscous, difficult to flow to the end of blood vessels, leading to cold feet or knee, stiff shoulders and insomnia.
b)攝取過量的酸性食品血液會傾向酸性而變黏稠,不易流到細血管的末稍,而易造成手腳或膝蓋的冷寒症,以及肩膀僵硬和失眠等。

c) When one is young and strong, taking suitable quantity of meat is appropriate, but older people it more suitable to have a diet which are primarily vegetables or small fish.
c)年輕力壯時吃適量的肉類是對的,但老年人則以蔬菜或小魚為宜。

2. Irregularity in the pace of life will cause the body physical condition to become acidic
2.生活步調失常會造成酸性體質

a) Irregular pace in life will lead to mental and physical stress
a)生活步調失常會造成精神與肉體的壓力。

b) According to statistics, people who sleep late are more likely to have cancer than normal persons, by as much as 5 times.
b)據統計,晚睡者罹患癌症的機率比正常人高出五倍。

c) Human beings originally lead a life with regular tempo in this world, it is not possible to store up sleep or food and not possible to change the order of living by mixing up days and nights.
c)人類本來就活在節奏的世界裡,無法事先儲備睡眠或飲食,也不能日夜顛倒。

d) Human organs are controlled by the autonomic nerves, and during day time it is mainly sympathetic nerves activities, and at night it is mainly the parasympathetic nerves which are functioning, If this order is disturbed and reversed, then diseases will result.
d)人體內臟受自律神經控制,白天主要是交感神經活動,晚上則由副交感神經工作,若使其錯亂及倒置,就亦百病滋生。

3. Emotion over tensed
3.情緒過於緊張

a) Civilised society brings stresses
a)文明社會會造成的壓力。

b) Job related or mental stresses
b)工作上或精神上的壓力。

c) A person suffers mental stress, when the stress is removed and the person relaxes, sometimes this may lead to death, referred to as the syndrome of imperfect adrenal cortex function.
c)當一個人承受精神壓力後,一旦緊張鬆弛,時會造成猝死,稱為潛在性副腎皮質機能不全症。

4. Physical Stress
4.肉體的緊張

a) Before any operation it would be necessary to check to see if the renal cortex does function normally. If the adrenal cortex is lacking, or if the stress imposed by the operation exceeded the ability of adrenal cortex to cope, it could lead to death or other undesirable impacts.
a)動手術之前應先檢查腎上腺皮質機能是否正常。如果副腎皮質機能較差,或手術壓力遠超過副腎調整功能,則可能造成病人死亡或其他不良影響。

b) If it noted that patient's face is puffy, it would be necessary to inquire in detail the patient's medical history and medication status, for patients taking adrenal cortical hormone, extra care should be exercise when administering acupuncture.
b)若發現病患臉部浮腫,需詳加詢問病史及服藥狀況,為長期服用腎上腺皮質賀爾蒙者,施以針灸要特別注意反應。

c) Stress due to physical labour or exercise in excess, whole night card games, driving etc should be avoided as much as possible
c)勞動或運動過度,通宵打牌、開車等壓力都應盡量避免。

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Appendix: Acidity/alkalinity of Common food stuff
附錄:常見食物的酸鹼性

1. Strongly acidic food: egg yolk, cheese, cake make with white sugar or persimmon, mullet fish roe, dried cod.
1強酸性食品:蛋黃、乳酪、白糖做的西點或柿子、烏魚子、柴魚等。

2. Mildly acidic food: ham, bacon, chicken meat, squid, pork, eel, beef, bread, wheat, butter, horse meat etc
2.中酸性食品:火腿、培根、雞肉、鮪魚、豬肉、鰻魚、牛肉、麵包、小麥、奶油、馬肉等。

3. Weakly acidic food: white rice, peanut, beer, alcohol, oil fried tofu, sea weed, clam, octopus, catfish
3.弱酸性食品:白米、落花生、啤酒、酒、油炸豆腐、海苔、文蛤、章魚、泥鰍。

4. Weakly alkaline food: red bean, radish, apple, cabbage, onion, tofu etc.
4.弱鹼性食品:紅豆、蘿蔔、蘋果、甘藍菜、洋蔥、豆腐等。

5. Mildly alkaline food: dried radish, soya bean, carrot, tomato, banana, orange, pumpkin strawberry, egg white, dried plum, lemon, spinach, etc.
5.中鹼性食品:蘿蔔乾、大豆、紅蘿蔔、蕃茄、香蕉、橘子、南瓜、草莓、蛋白、梅乾、檸檬、菠菜等。

6. Strongly alkaline food: grape, tea leave, grape wine, kelp sprout, kelp, etc Especially natural green algae which contain rich quantity of chlorophyll are very good alkaline health food, but tea should not be drunk in excess, and best to drink in the morning.
6.. 強鹼性食品:葡萄、茶葉、葡萄酒、海帶芽、海帶等。尤其是天然綠藻富含葉綠素,是不錯的鹼性健康食品,而茶類不宜過量,最佳飲用時間為早上。

Monday, May 3, 2010

try out the magic in cucumber

1. Cucumbers contain most of the vitamins you need every day, just one cucumber contains Vitamin B1, Vitamin B2, Vitamin B3, Vitamin B5, Vitamin B6, Folic Acid, Vitamin C, Calcium, Iron, Magnesium, Phosphorus, Potassium and Zinc.

2. Feeling tired in the afternoon, put down the caffeinated soda and pick up a cucumber. Cucumbers are a good source of B Vitamins and Carbohydrates that can provide that quick pick-me-up that can last for hours.

3. Tired of your bathroom mirror fogging up after a shower? Try rubbing a cucumber slice along the mirror, it will eliminate the fog and provide a soothing, spa-like fragrance.

4. Are grubs and slugs ruining your planting beds? Place a few slices in a small pie tin and your garden will be free of pests all season long. The chemicals in the cucumber react with the aluminum to give off a scent undetectable to humans but drive garden pests crazy and make them flee the area.


5 Looking for a fast and easy way to remove cellulite before going out or to the pool? Try rubbing a slice or two of cucumbers along your problem area for a few minutes, the phytochemicals in the cucumber cause the collagen in your skin to tighten, firming up the outer layer and reducing the visibility of cellulite. Works great on wrinkles too!!!

6.. Want to avoid a hangover or terrible headache? Eat a few cucumber slices before going to bed and wake up refreshed and headache free. Cucumbers contain enough sugar, B vitamins and electrolytes to replenish essential nutrients the body lost, keeping everything in equilibrium, avoiding both a hangover and headache!!

7. Looking to fight off that afternoon or evening snacking binge? Cucumbers have been used for centuries and often used by European trappers, traders and explores for quick meals to thwart off starvation.

8. Have an important meeting or job interview and you realize that you don 't have enough time to polish your shoes? Rub a freshly cut cucumber over the shoe, its chemicals will provide a quick and durable shine that not only looks great but also repels water.


9. Out of WD 40 and need to fix a squeaky hinge? Take a cucumber slice and rub it along the problematic hinge, and voila, the squeak is gone!

10. Stressed out and don 't have time for massage, facial or visit to the spa? Cut up an entire cucumber and place it in a boiling pot of water, the chemicals and nutrients from the cucumber with react with the boiling water and be released in the steam, creating a soothing, relaxing aroma that has been shown the reduce stress in new mothers and college students during final exams.

11. Just finish a business lunch and realize you don 't have gum or mints? Take a slice of cucumber and press it to the roof of your mouth with your tongue for 30 seconds to eliminate bad breath, the phytochemcials will kill the bacteria in your mouth responsible for causing bad breath.

12. Looking for a 'green' way to clean your faucets, sinks or stainless steel? Take a slice of cucumber and rub it on the surface you want to clean, not only will it remove years of tarnish and bring back the shine, but is won't leave streaks and won't harm you fingers or fingernails while you clean.


13. Using a pen and made a mistake? Take the outside of the cucumber and slowly use it to erase the pen writing, also works great on crayons and markers that the kids have used to decorate the walls!!




Saturday, May 1, 2010

儿童节歌

Can anyone share the song of this Children Day song?

快乐的儿童节呀
日暖风和放光华
看万紫千红展微笑
更嫩黄浅绿抽新芽
啊啊 这样一个好世界
正是我们的
美丽又宽大
兄弟呀
姐妹呀
这是我们的
啦啦啦啦啦啦啦
游戏吧
庆祝吧
这是我们的
啦啦啦啦啦

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MARRIAGE

To those who are married, .. Not married .. and soon to be married, I hope you will be touched with this story...


When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce.. I raised the topic calmly. She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why? I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Dew.
I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her! With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Dew so dearly.
Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now. The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Dew. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again. In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce.

She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month's time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage. This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that everyday for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning.. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request. I told Dew about my wife's divorce conditions.. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully..

My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms.
She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.
On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time.. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.
On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me.
On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Dew about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by.

Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger. She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.

Suddenly it hit me... she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart.
Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head. Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mum out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day. But her much lighter weight made me sad.
On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office.... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind...
I walked upstairs. Dew opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Dew, I do not want the divorce anymore. She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead.. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head.

Sorry, Dew, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other any more.
Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart.
Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart. That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed - dead.

The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves.
So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!
If you don't share this, nothing will happen to you. If you do, you just might save a marriage. Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.

女人不吵了、不闹了、不叫了,就是真的不爱

女人不吵了、不闹了、不叫了,就是真的不爱了

女人说要离开,是伤心了,是你让他失望了.

女人明知道你们之间没有未来,却情愿留在你身边做个普通朋友,不是她太贱,只是她舍不得 .

女人故意在你面前提到别的男人,不是她花心,只是想要刺激一下你,让你多在乎她一点 .

女人不主动打电话、发信息给你,不是不想你,是她不够自信,你接到电话、

短信时,是否也同样的想念她 .

如果女人不爱你,是不会对你发脾气的,不要报怨自己的女朋友脾气太怪,女人只对她爱的人发脾气.

女人不是不知道你还有别的女人,她选择独自伤心却不揭穿你,是害怕揭穿后给了你一个离开她的借口.

女人总是在你面前假装很开心,不是她没心没肺,成天傻乐,只是为了在你面前留下最美的样子.

男人,其实你不懂,女人一定要你在睡前和她说“晚安”。
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